"Love in the second sense - love as distinct from 'being in love' - is not merely a feeling. It is a deep unity, maintained by the will and deliberately strengthened by habit; reinforced by (in Christian marriages) the grace which both partners ask, and receive, from God ... 'Being in love' first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. It is on this love that the engine of marriage is run: being in love was the explosion that started it." CS Lewis, Mere Christianity
My husband and I used to always say that we made it work because we would wake up everyday and decide to remain in love. And I still believe reaffirming your decision on a daily basis is good, but as we have grown so has our view on this. Now when someone asks me how we stay so in love, my answer is that we know each others hearts. We have been through a lot, good, bad and just plain ugly. In the beginning we just needed to communicate properly, make God center of our marriage and number one in our house. After we got all that straightened out we had to spend time learning and exploring our hearts. The more I learned about his heart, the less I questioned; why did you say that or what do you mean? The more intimately I know his heart the less I have to question, I already know where he is coming from, I know his motives for all his actions and all his words.
Take the time to learn each others hearts, find out where it's all coming from. We all have different motivators, passions, talents and dreams... the more you know the less you will question.
LOVE TO THE LIONS
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